It’s February! Christmas feels like a distant memory and for that reason I haven’t had a chance to write up my chrimbo read. Having spent the day at my iconic aunt’s house over the festive period, her theme for presents was “pertinent” and “positivity”. Therefore her gift to me epitomises that (scroll down for the heartfelt inscription). Do you write in gift books?
Despite the cringy title, I really valued the message of how to find self-love. As a teacher, sister and friend I find myself putting others before myself because I thought that’s what life was about. However I’ve slowly learnt that you can’t always be there for others, if you don’t have the capacity to look after yourself. I enjoy showering others with love and care. I feel a strong sense of purpose and moral justice whenever I can help someone else. Though, my therapist asked me something while I was feeling low, “How would you help a friend in your situation?” Then everything clicked! It’s so much easier to help others, give advice, truly listen (new book post pending, Listen by Katheryn Mannix) and support others yet how could I do that to myself? Vex King explores exactly this, how can you be a true friend to yourself?
I must admit I have a bias against self-help books because I didn’t think they can help. I still don’t to an extent. Though now I believe if you want to make a difference in yourself, there’s no harm in starting with a book. King is conversational, with accessible language and highlights the significance of looking after your mind, body and soul.
It’s a personal book, drawing upon his own experiences to suggest ways to make simple, everyday changes. Having been homeless as a child, living in dilapidated hostels and managing an unstable relationship with his parents, King’s adverse experiences shaped him to inspire others. Strategies such as practising self-care, adopting healthy habits, embracing new opportunities and believing in your own self-worth. Essentially, the positivity you give our will come back to you (at some point!).
It’s an easy read and I’m glad I started the year with an inspiring, influential book. By completing it in less than a week, I already had a sense of achievement. Some aspects were gimmicky, with Instagram buzz words such as “toxic people” and “vibes”. Which I think tainted the morals and foundational message in which to be your authentic self. It was unexpected gift, one that I’d possibly not purchase for myself but would buy for others looking to make a positive change. 3.5/5
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